Love should not be based on criteria

If you ask me what is the best feeling in the world, I would have to say waking up on a lazy Saturday morning to find the love of my life sleeping next to me with one arm around my waist. Even after 8 years together, I still get a warm feeling when I snuggle close to him feeling so safe and comfortable with worries suddenly feeling like a thousand miles away.

I know of friends who are single and who are looking for a partner. Some of them have a long list of criteria, like he/she must be good-looking, must have a good job, must have a good background, etc. Some are just for fun but some believe that they must stick to these criteria in order to find the person right for them. I too used to have a list of criteria which my future boyfriend had to meet. I then of course I met Yin How who didn't meet a single criteria I had. And I know I don't meet any of his criteria (if he had any :p).

If I had stubbornly stuck to my criteria, I wouldn't be happily married right now. I wouldn't be waking up on Saturday mornings finding him next to me. I wouldn't have somebody waiting for me at home. I wouldn't have anyone to call to tell him all the useless information about how my day went. I wouldn't have someone to plan the rest of my life with. I wouldn't have somebody whom I can just connect to.

I'm just saying that is having all this criteria worth missing the chance of finding the person who would make you happy for the rest of your life? What if you just give somebody a try even though he/she doesn't fit your criteria? What would you have to lose? If it doesn't work out, oh well, at least you gave it a chance. But what if it does?

If your one of your criteria is that the person must be pretty, I can tell you that outer beauty will not last. All the romance and "electric" feelings you may get at the start of a relationship is only temporary. It's all superficial and it should not be the main criteria you should be looking for in a relationship. Having a relationship is not always easy and it takes a lot of effort to make it work and being beautiful will not help here. It could be that person who you don't think is pretty, ends up being the love of your life. And believe me when I say that when you love a person, that person will become the most beautiful person in your eyes.

Anyway, this is just my ramblings for people who are looking for a partner. To my girl friends who independent and who are happily single, I'll say "You go girl!". To my guy friends, I'll say, "Good for you, enjoy your life without complications". :) As for my friends who are looking for someone, if you do find a person whom you can connect to, just go for it!