Let's talk about sex

I’m betting that the title caught your attention right? Because like most people, you’re probably interested in sex. However, like most Malaysians, sex is not something you talk generally about it. You may read about it, you may have looked at photos or you may have even watched it on video in private. And some of us love watching Sex and the City which of course is mainly about sex. But to actually talk about it? No way…. because we Malaysians (or at least people from my generation and older) are shy to talk about it openly.

I for one do not think there’s anything to be shy about. I mean, I’m a married woman. I should be enjoying a sex life (with my hubby of course). It’s a very normal part of life. I’m simply stating a fact. So is it so outrages to mention that fact aloud?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not crazy over sex. I do not watch porn because I’m just not interested in it. I personally belief that sex is an intimate relationship between two people so I'm not interested about watching other people doing it, nor would I like to look at other people’s photos of it (though I do not find anything wrong about people watching porn).

Just that I get amused when people shy away from this topic. My sister can’t even bring herself to say the word “sex”. She prefers to use the term “making babies”. When I come out of the room with Yin How looking pleased, she’ll ask me with one eye brow raised, “Finish making babies ah?”. And I’ll give her a big contented smile, “yup”. One day she suddenly asked me suspiciously, “Eh, did the both of you ever make babies on my bed?”. I couldn’t resist and I gave her an answer which turned her expression into pure horror.

My mum can’t use the word sex. It’s just too vulgar. She only uses the term “make love’. “Humping” is also too vulgar for her. When she saw Russell (my dog) humping Sparkle (my other dog), she said, “Please stop Russell from making love to Sparkle”. I’m thinking… erm.. I seriously doubt what he is doing has anything to do with love.

Even Yin How initially was shy about it. When I shop for something and there’s a range of it, I like to take my time choosing exactly what I want. So when I’m shopping for condoms, there’s a lot of interesting stuff to choose from. At Watsons or Guardian, I’ll usually take my own sweet time at that section going through all the different types before I pick one. This horrifies Yin How who would make it a point to stand as far away from me. When I ask him to pay, he would say, “A lot of people at the cashier… wait for a while la..”. And he would purposely buy all sorts of unnecessary stuff along with it hoping that it won’t be so obvious. But of course now Yin How is no longer shy about it. He now joins me at that section comparing all the different types. :)

Anyway, I just think there’s nothing uncomfortable about talking of it generally with close friends. Of course I don’t go into specific personal details, but as a general topic, it’s sometimes hilarious to talk about it. I laughed during lunch just now until my cheek muscles hurt which made me come up with this post.

And by the way, Genny, we have not made babies on your bed before. I just wanted to horrify you. :P