Ignorance vs. reality - take 2

Was going to post this as a comment to the previous post, but the comment became too long. :)

Honestly I was once naive. And I was once one of those who arrogantly believe that good things will happen to good people. But there's not always true in reality. You'll either have to fight to survive or just give up and fall back. I've dealt some people who were so selfish, I got burnt in the end. So sometimes, we have to be selfish in return to protect ourselves.

Some people are sheltered all of their lives. And when we have children, we tend to protect them the best we can as well. But is there such thing as being over-protective? I think so.

A lot of us still have our parent's protection until now. Whenever something difficult happens, we can run back to our parents who will instinctively protect or help us. But if you have lost that kind of protection at a young age or worst, if the child had to become the mature one instead of the parent, it's a whole different story. You have been surviving without that kind of protection for a long time.

I think that during the older times, our parent's parents do not shelter them as much as the parents today who over-protect their children.

My point is, if you lose that sheltered protection especially when you're young, only then will you realize how sheltered others are. And sometimes what other people take for granted, you'll have to work 10 times harder just to get it.

Most of the time, people who only believe in good are people who never really had a bad experience in life before. Because when you have gone through a bad experience, you'll realize that whether you like it or not, there will be good and bad in life and sometimes you can't control it. Sometimes it's not a matter of choice. It just happens. You can still continue to believe in good, but it's with the realization that it's not something to be taken for granted, it's not something that will always happen for sure just because you think so.

If you believe that "buat baik dibalas baik", so this means that "buat buruk dibalas buruk"? So meaning, for example, all people who die of cancer must be really bad people? Or children born into an abusive home must be because they are born bad?

I know some really good people who had to deal with really bad things. And I know of some shitty people who seem to have everything good happening for them. So no, I do not believe that just because you do good means only good will happen to you.

Yes, some bad things can be handled by the how we decide to handle it and the choices we make. But some things just can't. Like can you choose who your parents are? Can you choose to be born healthy? Can you gurantee that tomorrow when you go out, you won't be killed by a drunk driver? Some bad things just cannot be controlled no matter how good a person you are.

For me, I do not believe the world is a good world. I believe that the world is a world of both good and bad. Some of us get more bad then others. But like you commented, there's always something positive to take from it, which are the lessons you learn on the way. And it makes you stronger and not give up so easily whenever something bad comes along. And if you handle it right, it makes you a better, wiser and a more mature person.


BTW, no shit has happened to me recently. This topic popped up as a discussion Yin How and I were having yesterday. :)

Ignorance vs. reality

Let's face it, life is not always full of sugar and spice and everything nice. Sometimes life is just shitty. But there are people who think that as long as they do what is right, then everything will always be sunny and bright. And when these people are warned that things may not always be as simple as they think, they arrogantly insist that good things will happen to good people.

So the question is, would you rather be that naive sheltered person who believes that life will be good just because they have never through a bad experience? Ignorance is bliss after all.

Or would you rather someone who has been seasoned with bad experiences and survived it coming out hopefully stronger and wiser than before?

Probably a dumb question. Who would want to go through bad experiences? But the fact is that shit happens, more so to certain people.

How's your weekend?

Started the morning with Balik Pulau laksa





Then steamboat for two in my balcony for dinner.


Notice the intruder at the bottom corner trying to steal food




And of course there must be KIMCHI!!!


Eat until syiok syiok. Maybe will have dessert later. ;)

Hope you're having a great weekend as well. :)

Though hubby is currently glued to the TV watching the Man U vs. Malaysia football match. Zzzzz...

Comfy nia

I bought one of those exercise blouses which comes with padding and support so there's no need to wear a bra. IT'S SO DARN COMFORTABLE.

Guys should appreciate the fact that they don't have to wear bras. It's not fair.

I'm sorry, I can't help it... just feeling terlalu comfortable right now.

Dr. Oz says...

I have mentioned it a few times before. I love Dr. Oz. He makes me want to be a healthier person. When Dr. Oz goes on the Oprah show, I'd have a notebook with me and I'd jot down everything he says.

Image from Oprah.com

Take a look at the 3 woman above and guess thier ages. Answers are at the end of the post.

Dr. Oz says to look and have a younger body, we should follow the checklist below.



For more information, click here to go to the Oprah website.

I'm currently doing the following

1. One green apple for breakfast, and if possible, other types of fruits later during the day
   
2. Cook brown rice instead of white rice
3. One cup of Anlene milk per day
4. I put a green tea bag into my water bottle at work. Green tea is really good. It's high in antioxidants, reduces cholestrol, and research shows that it helps to prevent cancer and helps with weight management.
   
5. I use olive oil instead of cooking oil
6. One capsule of fish oil per day
7. Eat wholemeal bread instead of white bread. Always look out for the term "wholegrain".
   

I still do eat unhealthy food, like my occasional cravings for KFC, but since I cook at home during weekdays, I try to choose food which are good for us.

Why my sudden interest to lead a healthier lifestyle? Well, I see all the health problems my grandparents are going through right now because of their unhealthy lifestyle they used to have. And it made me realize that health is not something to take for granted no matter how old we are.

And the answer to the question above, the lady on the left is 60 years old. Lady in the middle is 63. And lady on the right is 50.

Lady on the left looks freaking young. She maintains a healthy diet, has hobbies which she's passionate about and practiced yoga for 22 years, which made me syiok syiok want to try yoga. So far tried it twice, then lazy to try it again. :P

Lady in the middle also leads a healthy lifestyle. Lady on the right leds a stressful life and doesn't exercise and you can see she looks way older than the first two ladies.

So in conclusion, eat right, sleep right, and excercise right. Health cannot be taken for granted.

One year ago...

There was cake

There were balloons


There were favours


And wonderful friends and family


I held his hand

And together we danced our butts away to the Bee Gees, MJ, Chicken Dance and lots more.



Can't believe one year has passed since. Time sure flies... :)

Random points

• I wish more people here would get Twitter. It’s nice getting little updates from others throughout the day, oh like when I'm stuck in my gray cubicle at work while somebody is happily twittering away about her vacation in Europe driving a SLK convertible... arghhh..... ;)
  

• I can't understand why some guys carry their girlfriends/wives girly looking handbag, especially when the girl is not carrying anything. Men are not meant to carry woman handbags over their shoulders, especially those girly looking ones. It just looks so…. akua-ish.

• Sparkle’s fatness is starting to bother me especially now that she makes all sorts of weird noises when she breathes. I've put her on a strict diet of half a cup of biscuits in the morning and half at night. But I keep forgetting to give her the half in the morning, and she becomes a little psychotic at night when it's dinner time.

• Lately there are a lot of those lame government advertisements trying to promote nilai nilai murni. I can’t help feeling that it’s getting lamer and lamer to down right embarrassing.

• I don't like facebook anymore. I find it so crowded now. And I will always wonder why some people there need to compete to get 1000 friends and more. Do you really need 1000 over friends? But I still check it out for photos people post. That’s nice.

• I'm starting to get restless in life. Looking for a change. A new job? A new baby? A new hairstyle? A new hubby? (hehehe, hubby is irreplaceable... I might be going through a quarter life crisis right now)

• I was brushing my teeth last night and I suddenly noticed slight bump on my arms which turned out to be my biceps. I didn't know I had biceps; I just have flab, skin and bones. Dance aerobics must be working. I excitedly rushed to the sleeping Yin How and forced him to wake up to look at my biceps. He flexed his own biceps to show me how much bigger his were compared to mine to shut me up. I let him go back to sleep after that.

• I will never understand what the big hoo-haa over Transformers. Never liked it, never will.

• Can’t believe one year has passed since my sister’s orientation at USM. She’s now a 2nd year student. Time really flies. Soon the baby sister will be out working. For those who knew me when she was still in kindergarten, I bet you’re feeling so old now. I know I am. :P

• I’m happy it’s Friday.

Have a nice weekend! :)